A – Z Coaching and Mentoring – This week’s extract focuses on the importance of ‘Dancing in the moment’.
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Dancing in the moment
Thinking on your feet is a key factor in being a successful coach. Dancing in the moment allows greater flexibility of coaching style and a personalised response to what emerges in a coaching session.
A good metaphor for this is freestyle dancing, where the dancer has prior knowledge and experience of steps and moves and so can put these together when the right moment presents itself in the music. Dancing in the moment requires a certain level of confidence, knowing that you can draw upon the right coaching tool, model or approach without having planned it an advance. As with any skill, ease and fluidity develops with practice. The best way to
sabotage dancing in the moment is to plan the detail of coaching sessions in advance. Avoid turning up with pre-conceived ideas of how the coaching session should progress. Avoid giving priority to structure and your agenda. Trust and intuition will enable the coach to dance in the moment, with acceptance that until the client starts talking, the coach will have little idea of how the coaching could progress.
Taken from the A-Z Coaching Handbook by Clare Smale where you will find a comprehensive A-Z, plus a full list of references.